The weekend was going well until I found out that my "brother," Moussa, is probably doing to die. I finally found out what's going on too. It's a cerebral hemorrhage and possible embolism (I apologize to any doctors or health care lawyers reading this). We were supposed to go to St. Louis at 8am Sunday morning, but it ended up being postponed until Monday. I found out the Moussa is actually my Tonton's (uncle) son and he was the one taking us to St. Louis. Just as we were ready to leave, my mom came to my room crying and said that Moussa is too sick. I started to panic and told my friends. I tried to ask the maid what was going on, but all she did was put a scarf over her head in the salon and cry. My brother, Andrew, figured out that Moussa wasn't dead, but anything could happen. People were then sitting in my house all day praying and reading from the Koran. Everyone was incredibly stoic though. I tried to go out, but failed and decided I'd rather be at home. My mom and I sat and cried together for awhile and I bought the family some oranges. This whole time, everyone keeps saying to me: "Moussa is just tired." No one will admit that he's dying, which I understand. So I spent the day trying to help my family and mostly just holding my mom's hand.
I didn't get much sleep, but we left for St. Louis around 1pm (we were supposed to leave at 11am) with Prof Thoup, who is best friends with my Tonton. My assured me that I would be informed if anything happened. Well, about a couple hours or so into the trip, Andrew called to say that Moussa had passed. One of the worst places to be when you found out your brother died is on a bus for 9 hours. So, I missed the funeral and time with my family. I tried to go back, but our director said that would be inappropriate, which I have hard feelings about...
My brother has passed, but I still have wonderful memories with him that I'd like to share:
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How long have you been speaking french?: This was the ice breaker between us. I asked my mom on the Saturday in Dakar if there were plugs in my room and she said: "yes!" I ended up finding them, but my mom was still concerned that I didn't know where they were. So, while I was sleeping Moussa came into my room and started speaking in French and my comprehension was next to nothing because he had woken me up. Not to mention I was in shorts, so he basically saw me naked and we were both really uncomfortable. But, he kept asking me questions in French and I kept not understanding. Finally after 5 minutes of immense awkwardness, he said: "How long have you been speaking French?" IN ENGLISH! I felt so embarrassed that I spent the day reading my French-English Dictionary and later after dinner I told him how embarrassed it made me feel. He instantly felt bad that he made me feel that way and said that it was completely normal for me to not understand him. He also apologize for walking in on me. Then we spent the night talking in the living room and it was the first time I felt at home.
2.
ATTAYA (Senegalese tea... more like mostly sugar and a little tea): So everyone has host brothers close to their age that teach them how to make attaya and I find myself mooching off of everyone for Attaya. This is okay, except I never learned how to make attaya. So, the week before Moussa went in to the hospital, I asked him to teach me how to make Attaya. I kept bugging him and he finally agreed. We went up on the top terrasse, next to his room, and he had me make attaya. It was awesome because he barely helped even though I was clearly screwing up and he simply told me: "Keep going, don't worry." We then drank attaya under the stars with Andrew, Erica, Katy and Hannah, and talked until late into the night.
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Music: Moussa is the only Senegalese who doesn't like rap/hip-hop. We spent one night listening to the blues and jazz on his computer. He has awesome taste...
4.
French compliment!: One night we were talking in my courtyard, as usual, and he said that he was impressed with my French!... It was one of my best moments so far on Study Abroad. I got a compliment on my French!
5.
Alyssa! I'm your brother!: There was one night where I was introducing him to a bunch of my friends and I didn't know exactly how he was related to me, so I said "And this is.... Moussa you are my...." And he replied: "Alyssa! I'm your brother!"
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Door isn't locked!: One time I was going out with my friends and Moussa came to find me because my door wasn't locked. He made me go lock my door, which in fact it was locked. So I told him that and he said: "You have to turn the key twice, not once for it to be fully locked." WHAT? How did he know that I only turned my key once? He's always watching out for me...
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Classes: We used to have talks when I came home from school. I would talk about what I learned in school and he'd tell me about work. One day, he told me that he didn't think the classes at the Boabab Center were worth it. I laughed and asked him: "why?" All he could say is that we should have to learn all that in a classroom and time was better spent outside the classroom. Well said.
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TOUR!: After three weeks of being in Senegal, Moussa told me that I could bring friends into the house and hang out on the terrasse. I politely said that I hadn't gone past the first floor of the house. He was astonished and gave me a tour of the entire house. He even showed me all the bathrooms. It was hilarious.
9.
Waxalay with Taxi men: So I asked Moussa how to negotiate with the taxi men. He bluntly told me to just say the price and if the taxi man doesn't agree, shoo them away. I told them that it was more difficult for Tubabs. He said: "It doesn't matter. Just say the price and that's that. If the taxi man doesn't agree with you, then he isn't a good taxi man." And that was that...
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Disney: One night we watched the Disney Channel with our younger brothers. We finally looked at each other and could not stop laughing. Like most Disney shows, it was absolutely ridiculous and we bonded over how stupid the show was and how serious the boys were taking it.
Hope this gives you a taste of how wonderful he is and how he will be very missed. It will be hard to return to the house without him around.
Love you Moussa.
Alyssa